Tenderness and Rage

Stop 4/5: Activist Angelina Namiba on ‘Memory Store’

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See the memory box?

It was developed as part of the memory-box project, started in South Africa. 

The project started because HIV-positive parents wanted to tell their children:

“I have HIV.” 

They wanted to create a memory box to keep the family history, and plan for the future. 

It would be a memory box for children, so that when their mum was gone, they could remember her. 

This box was made by Angelina Namiba to give to her daughter.

It was made in the 1990s.

Angelina was first diagnosed with HIV in 1992.

At the time, there was no HIV treatment available and those with HIV were often expected to die within six months. 

Angelina chose items she felt were important and easily identifiable.

She didn’t want items that needed explanation, as when she died, she wouldn’t be around to discuss them. 

All of the included items hold an important meaning. 

You can see three ‘Positively Women’ magazines from 1999.

Angelina was pregnant with her daughter and wrote in a week-by-week ‘Pregnancy Journey’ diary. 

At the time, it was rare to openly talk about this.

But Angelina wanted her daughter to know she was special.

And she wanted her daughter to grow up and read the diary and know that the pregnancy was a wonderful experience. 

Also included was a baby book with a photograph of her daughter being born during a caesarean-section operation, the umbilical cord still attached.

A piece of the cord is also in the book. 

Angelina says:

“Looking back on the ‘Memory Store’, I can see how the memories I decided to include clearly demonstrated how important it was for me to be a mum.

“How the peer support I received so early on in my diagnosis enabled me to cope and realise my dream.

“It inspired me to become one of the founder members who set up the 4M Network of Mentor Mothers.

“A small charity that has gone on to train and support women living with HIV to support their peers through the pregnancy journey, and also for their own personal development.

“A reminder of just how vital one-to-one human support is and continues to be, for people living with HIV in all our diversities.”